Marquee Hire FAQ’s

Below are some of the most commonly asked questions with our answers, but if you have a question not answered here, please call us on 01489 575372 or send us an email.

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After visiting the garden, we were able to position this marquee so that it nestled beautifully within its surroundings …

  • Do you need to see where I want my marquee sited for outdoor weddings?

    Yes, it is really important that we visit the site. Apart from giving us the opportunity of meeting you to discuss your ideas in more detail, it gives us a chance to survey the site for suitability – It’s too important a day to leave things to chance! Would you choose your wedding dress off the peg without trying it on?

    After the site visit, we will provide you with a fully itemised quotation with scaled drawings to show you exactly what we can offer. These site visits are free and without obligation.


  • How do I work out the size of the marquee I need?

    We send out a guide to capacity with our brochure but this is just a rough guide. It does not take into account the bar, buffet or dance floor areas so this is why the site visit is so important as we will advise you on the size of marquee best suited for your event.


  •  My garden may be unsuitable – could you suggest an alternative venue where I could have my wedding?

    We have a list of wonderful venues; please give us a call so that we can help you find a suitable one.


  • Do you supply heating in the marquee for outdoor weddings?

    Yes we do. Even in the depths of winter we can ensure that your marquee will be snug and warm.


  • How does the marquee work if the weather is really hot?

    Because of our unique system, we will supply enough opening windows to ensure that even on the hottest day your marquee will be cool and shady. This is when our marquees come into their own as you will be able to open them up to allow your guests to spill out into the garden.


  • Can you supply marquees that attach to an existing building?

    Due to our unique system our marquees can be linked and joined to form a variety of shapes and sizes and are particularly well designed to link up to buildings. We can create those intimate areas that are so popular for weddings – chill out areas, bar and lounging areas, separate dance floor areas, linked areas for gaming tables – the options are endless!


  • When do you erect the marquees?

    Usually we pitch the marquee two or three days prior to your event and take it down within a similar time scale. However, we would always liaise you with and try to fit in with any requests but to achieve this, the earlier we are notified the better.

I hope the above has helped but please visit our website for more information where you can contact us if you would like us to give you more information or a quote.

How do I hire a marquee?

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This Beautiful wedding marquee was built in a very tight space – you’d be amazed what we can do in your garden! This stunning photograph was taken by Adam de-Ste-Croix. Arrange to meet with Adam to view wedding experiences and memories plus world leading fine art albums. http://www.saintecroix.co.uk/

Marquees are the perfect pop up venue that offer flexible options for almost any type of event. Once you’ve decided to hold your function in a marquee there are still a number of decisions to make on what can be a large range of important features, some of which you may not have considered.

Your first choices to make are the date of your event and then it’s location.  If you would like any assistance with finding a venue, Southern Marquees can offer advice and recommendations.  Once the date and venue are settled it is time to find the right marquee company for you. Any good marquee company will be able to offer advice on everything else you will need to consider.

At Southern Marquees we make it a priority for our customers to get exactly the finished product they desire with the absolute minimum amount of hassle and stress. Your big day is too important for us to leave anything to chance. From your initial contact with us we’ll use our more than 30 years of experience and invest a lot of time and effort into tailoring your day to your specific requirements to ensure that your marquee will exceed your expectations.

Can I hire a marquee over the phone?

When trying to choose a marquee company be wary of anyone who gives you a firm quote over the phone without seeing the venue or discussing each aspect of your event. The sheer scale of the customisation possibilities mean even marquees of the exact same design and size can have a large difference in price.

The best you could hope for solely over the phone is a very vague and imprecise estimate, and even then with all the options available making comparisons between companies based on price alone is a very difficult task as some like to quote for the bare minimum as standard, whereas more respectable companies will give a more realistic valuation.

Southern Marquees is on hand to discuss the options. Call us Now on 01489 575372 or use our Contact Page to send an enquiry.

Should I meet marquee suppliers?

The only way to get a true idea of what sort of marquee you need and who is best to provide it is by meeting somebody in person, ideally at your prospective site, and having a full discussion including as many details of your event as possible. This allows for the highest degree of accuracy within a quote as well as highlighting any practical issues you may not be aware of but that an experienced marquee company would have overcome thousands of times over.

It is also a very good idea to meet with your marquee supplier in person to build up a relationship with them. Working closely on what is potentially a very personal occasion requires a good, trusting relationship and complimentary personalities.

At Southern Marquees from the beginning of our busy season (May-September) we also offer you the opportunity to meet us at a marquee which we would recently have erected to get a first-hand close up view of the quality of our final product, as well as give you a chance to view real examples of the sort of options that are available.

The marquees to view are at selected venues and by appointment only.  We would never take anyone into a private garden!

Will my marquee supplier want to see my site?

Due to its importance we at Southern Marquees always insist upon a free, no obligation site visit before giving a quote (unless you are using a site recommended by us on which we have built before).

One of our friendly team will visit you and gather as much information as possible, both in terms of the facts and logistics of the event, but also to help try to gauge the less tangible aspects such as the required mood and feel of your function and offer practical ideas and solutions to accomplish your aims.

We are also very realistic in our dealings with our customers. For example, if your site is not big enough for the size of tent required to hold the number of guests you foresee we will tell you. Part of our service is to give honest answers and thorough advice.

What should I look for in a marquee hire quote?

After opening discussions and once an initial brief has been decided upon a more realistic quote can be provided. It is worth bearing in mind that due to the flexible nature of a marquee if you do have changes you’d like to make (for example the number of guests changes or your plans for entertainment or dining escalate) then more often than not changes can be made quite simply, and as long as you are provided with an itemised breakdown of costs these changes can be clearly reflected in the final price.

Getting an itemised breakdown assures you that there will be no hidden costs so your figures can be reasonably precise when trying to plan ahead and budget.

For experience you can depend on, call Southern Marquees Ltd now on

01489 575372

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Another shot of this fabulous wedding marquee in Portchester taken by Adam de-Ste-Croix; http://www.saintecroix.co.uk/

Testimonials – Here’s what our customers have to say;

Hi Mandy, Hugh and Mark,

Just wanted to say a big thank you for supplying us with such a fantastic marquee for our party.

We were so pleased we chose to have the venue at home I know it’s a lot of work but so worth it and your marquee and excellent service which you always provide made it as easy as it could be.

Everybody who came was so impressed with everything that you supplied and the feedback all were “amazed “!

So hopefully you will pick some business up from our board which we put up with your name on. Maybe not immediately but eventually …

Thank you once again for making our special party so special.

Birthday party – 13th October 2018 – Clanfield


Hi Mandy,

I just wanted to thank you and all of your team of helpers so much for putting up and taking down of the wonderful marquee. For a second year running the ‘boys’ have been so polite and efficient and made it all look so easy. They were never in our way and just got on with what needed to be done, all in all we were so impressed. The garden was left looking just as good as when they arrived, no tyre marks, damage to grass, left over debris, nails etc.

The wedding was an amazing day and everyone had a fantastic time. I’m just hoping our third daughter gives us at least a year off before she announces anything! Very happy to act as a reference should you ever need one.

Wedding – 31st August 2018 – Birdham


 

Hi Hugh and Mandy,

Would just like to say thanks to the boys with the construction of the Marquee and the taking down after.

They were all very tidy, polite and a pleasure to have working around us.

The Marquee was set out and  looked very organised and effortless to construct, yet we know how hard they work.

Thank you and the team for all your work.

Wedding – 11th August 2018 – Lower Swanwick


 

Dear Hugh, Mandy and Mark,

We Cannot thank you enough for your friendly skill, expertise and judgement.  We LOVED the arrangement of marquees that you set up for Frances and Simon’s wedding and Mark and I have both missed them since they were taken down.  You made the best of our garden and ceated a special venue – the best it could have been.

Daughters wedding – 4th August 2018 – Winchester


 

Dear Hugh, Mandy, Jane and all The Team,
What a wonderful weekend we had for the wedding, it already seems like ages ago!
I want to take this opportunity to thank you all so much, you will never know how much I appreciated all the help you gave me, the marquee was wonderful, the pink sash and when the tables were made up really complimented each other and made the marquee look super, the dance area was great with the twinkly lights at night, everybody commented how nice it was to have the dance area separated from the reception area.
It was lovely to be able to open up the marquee day and night, the day went so quickly and in no time at all it was 1.30am in the morning!
Thank you again for putting up with me, you truly are such lovely people and I shall miss our telephone calls, I tell everyone about you and will when the photos are sorted send you some if you want to use them.

Daughter’s wedding – 4th August 2018 – Andover


 

Thank you so much for providing us with a wonderful marquee for our wedding. We had such a wonderful day and what you provided was perfect….

Wedding – 4th August  2018 – Poppydown Vineyard

…We cannot recommend Mandy and Hugh enough. They will go out of their way to help make your day a success and clearly know what they are doing to help make running events a lot easier.  We have used them on a number of projects with great results!


 

Dear Mandy and the team,

Thank you for everything you did that meant we had the most beautiful marquee for our wedding, It really looked stunning and we’re enjoying re-living how good it looked through the photographs. Thanks also for your help with the hanging of the bunting, I’m sure we would have really struggled without you. Thanks again.

Wedding – West Hill Park, Titchfield – 28th July 2018


 

Dear Hugh,

Just a short note to thank you for donating the use of your marquee on Saturday. Given the windy conditions we were more than grateful for something as stable and well anchored. In fact we did use it to anchor a smaller gazebo to serve as a preparation area. Another gazebo sheltering the performers was not so lucky and had to be removed as it was in danger of enveloping the accompanist.

We don’t have a final number yet but it looks as if we will raise about £2700 for the Jubilee Sailing Trust – a great result!

Your generosity was greatly appreciated.

 

Charity Event – 28th July 2018


 

Hi Mandy, Hugh & Jane,

I just wanted to thank you and all your brilliant team of lads for such a great build.

It wasn’t an easy space and the end result was nothing short of spectacular!  It worked so well on every level and we all enjoyed a truly wonderful wedding.

It was a great service from beginning to end and we couldn’t have been more pleased with the whole experience.

Wishing you all many more sunny weddings!

Nieces wedding in Titchfield, Hampshire – 14th July 2018

and from her niece .. the bride!;

Thank you so much for all your help and support in the build up to our wedding and on the day. You made the whole process so simple and no question was too much to ask. The marquee looked like a more beautiful version of exactly what we hoped for. We especially appreciate all your guidance on picking the shape and design of the marquee and even the decor! The whole team are kind, helpful and incredibly thoughtful and we were delighted with our choice of supplier from start to finish.

We had such a fantastic wedding day and the marquee was just exactly what we wanted it looked fabulous.

Wedding – Stansted Park, Rowlands Castle – 16th June 2018


 

Dear Team,

On behalf of the bride and groom, as well as ourselves, we would like to thank everyone involved in providing the marquee and garden decorations.

It looked really lovely and we are so pleased that we used your services.

Everyone was extremely cheerful and nothing was too much trouble.

Best wishes,

Wedding – 26th May 2018 – Landford


 

Hello Mandy

Just a quick note, rather belated, to thank you for making my party such a success.  As you can see from the attached photos, the finished product looked brilliant.

I would just like to say that from my initial enquiry, all the way through to the guys clearing away the day after the event, the service provided by you was faultless. Nothing was too much trouble for you, your advice was invaluable and your staff were professional, efficient and very hard working. They were a lovely group of guys and so polite!

Olly at Clifford Brown Catering was a real find; again, thank you for the recommendation. He was excellent!

So, thank you once again, and best wishes for a busy event season.

All the best!

Anne

 Party  – Titchfield – 19th May 2018


We had the most wonderful day thank you. And SO blessed with the weather.
Many thanks!
Wedding – 7th April 2018 – Portsmouth

 

Thank you all very very much for all your hard work in getting the marquee up for the wedding. You were all so cheerful in quite difficult conditions and very helpful in getting the lanterns up etc etc. The weather really wasn’t on anyone’s side!

 

It all looked beautiful on the day and we had a wonderful happy time. The photos we have had so far are great. Thank goodness the weather was kind to us on Saturday.

Thank you very much once again.

With best wishes to you all.

(Thank you very much for leaving the garden in such a spic and span condition Our neighbours emailed us to tell us whilst we were away!

Grass is now growing back very well and David is at this moment mowing it as we only got back last night. Can’t believe this weather. I am almost too hot?!)

Wedding – 7th April 2018 – Kings Somborne


 

Southern Marquees is a lovely family business. Hugh, Mandy, Mark and their their team could not have been more helpful. They worked efficiently and tirelessly to make sure things were perfect and the effect for our wedding was AMAZING. They are also extremely fairly priced compared to all other companies we looked at. Hugh spent forever trying to work with the awkward garden space provided and the end result worked brilliantly. We cannot recommend them highly enough.

Wedding – 24th March 2018 – Swanmore


 

“Dear Mandy,
The marquee was lovely and we were warm with both heaters, and the party seemed a great success….
Here are 2 somewhat more unusual photos for your portfolio!
Thank you once again, Mandy…’til the next time!”

Golden Wedding Anniversary – March 2018 (during ‘The Beast From the East!!) – (Snowy) Winchester

March 18th 2018

Read our testimonials to hear what a fabulous party was had even during some of the coldest weather we have witnessed!

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The footprint left after our marquee was removed during the ‘Beast From The East’.


 

The party was a huge success due to entirely to the marquee on which we have had so many nice comments. Your ‘boys’ were a joy.

We look forward to seeing you here again for our Golden!

Everything with Southern Marquees was BRILLIANT!!

Party – December 2017 – Portchester


 

Thank you for your stunning marquee and many many thanks for creating such a beautiful day for us!
We will definitely be using yourselves if we ever need another marquee!

Wedding – September 2017 – Shedfield, Hampshire


 

We were so happy with the marquee provided by Southern marquees for our wedding in September.
Hugh and Mandy were so friendly, professional and approachable throughout the whole process. They quickly responded to any queries and gave brilliant advice meaning our marquee was perfect for our day. I would 100% recommend them to anyone. Thank you so much!

Wedding – 2nd September 2017 – West Dean Gardens, Hampshire


 

We used Southern Marquees for a joint 60th and 21st – They provided the most amazing marquee, lighting, tables, chairs and decoration which all come together and looked wonderful!! And when the weather came into play they were quick to provide us with a second tent which saved the party.
Mandy and Hugh were so helpful, they pointed us in the direction of catering companies – we went for Forking-out caterers (Salisbury), which we couldn’t recommend enough. On top of this they recommended an extremely good dj, Toby Oakley (New Forest) who provided an amazing evening of music and entertainment.

Mandy, Hugh, Mark and their team were so lovely and friendly. They were quick to answer any questions we had and helped up with any problems! Making the party planning stress free and thorough. In all we had an amazing evening!

This review doesn’t do justice to their amazing work!

Parties – August 2017 – Burseldon, Hampshire


 

 The marquee was everything Jack and Katy had hoped for, they smiled the whole day.  It was a perfect day and even the weather was kind to us.  We had so many comments on the marquee and setting at West Dean. The photographer was very impressed too and we await his photos.  Thank you again for everything you did for them, it was their dream wedding and you helped it happen for them.

Wedding – August 2017 – West Dean Gardens


 

I just wanted to say a huge thank you for organising our marquee for our Prom. We had several positive comments on the marquee and how beautiful it was. The students were blown away. I will send you some photos. Please pass on my thanks to your wonderful team.

Prom – June 2017 – Brune Park School, Hampshire


 

Southern Marquees provided a beautiful marquee for our Wedding recently. We were very impressed with the service the whole way along and would definitely recommend them. Mandy and Hugh are so helpful, professional and friendly, and made everything so easy for us. They are very quick to respond to any questions and gave very useful advice – their experience really shines through. The team who put up the marquee were brilliant, and worked incredibly hard to get it looking perfect. We had the most wonderful Wedding day and would really like to thank all the team at Southern Marquees for their part in it.

Wedding – April 2017 – Lymington, Hampshire


 

The service has been exceptional! The marquee is good value for money and team who put the marquee up were polite and professional. We would recommend this company to everyone considering a party in their own home. I am already planning the next event! Thank you so much!!!

50th Birthday Party – January 2017 – Sarisbury Green 


 

Some might avoid planning a party in the winter but this family were determined not to let a very special 90th birthday pass without a celebration and this lovely letter proves that you should not let the damp November days prevent you from holding a party;

Just a brief note to record our delight with the marquee you provided last weekend. This contributed greatly to the success of the party to celebrate my mother in law’s 90th birthday, despite the weather.
The quality of the tent was ably matched by the friendly efficiency of the team pitching and subsequently dismantling it. Please convey my thanks to Hugh and your erection team.

Hamble – November 2016


 

Thank you Southern Marquees for providing such a professional and helpful service. The marquee was perfect for our big day, it provided the perfect venue for our DJ and dancefloor (which our guests made great use of). We were extremely impressed with the service the guys who erected the marquee provided. They really went above and beyond to help us out with fixing our gazebo onto the side, when we came across issues. We will definitely recommend you to anyone who needs a marquee in the future.

Wedding – September 2016


 

Duncan and I were married at Bossington House on Saturday 6th August. We had the most perfect day and a huge part of that was down to the time, energy and attention that we received from both Mandy and Hugh at Southern Marquees throughout the whole build up to the wedding. For me personally, they were true gems, always on hand to answer questions, offer advice, and not only about the marquee, but with all areas of the wedding. Nothing was too much trouble, even inviting my Mum and I for tea. They were an absolute pleasure to deal with during what was sometimes a stressful time, and I literally cannot recommend their products and service highly enough. I will talk about Southern Marquees far and wide, and send heartfelt thanks to Mandy, Hugh and all their team.

Wedding – Bossington House – August 2016


 

Thank you for everything! The recommendations were fab, the marquee looked
fab and the party was a great success! It was a total pleasure and I’m just trying to think of another excuse for a party!

Party – West Hill Park – August 2016


 

Just pausing for breath after last weekend!
Just a note to say thank you so much to you and all your team for making Saturday and Sunday such special days – everything went beautifully thanks to all your preparation and knowledge and the Marquee was beautiful.
We would highly recommend you without hesitation to anyone needing a marquee.
Maybe the next family wedding although we have told them both to elope!!!

Portchester – August 2016


 

We are hoping it will be a good day and that the weather will be kind to us. We’ve had so many conflicting reports regarding the weather, so fingers crossed.

I have to say the young men who came to put up the marquee were excellent, and a credit to your company, especially the supervisor (sorry I didn’t get his name). Nothing was too much trouble and they went about their work with pride and efficiency. Please pass on my sincere thanks for a job well done.

I will certainly try and get some photos for you.

Emsworth – June 2016


 

Thank you for providing a brilliant wedding reception venue – everyone had a fabulous time and the marquee just looked sensational. Thank you all for your very kind and helpful service – I shall certainly always be recommending you to everyone in the future!

Hollybank House – May 2016


 

Many thanks for all your help and calming comments during the preparations for Andy’s 50th birthday party. Your great organisational skills and sense of humour have proved invaluable.  We are delighted with the marquee and looking forward to the party!

50th Birthday Party – Romsey – September 2015


 

Thank you very much for everything you have done for us again. The wedding went very well thank you and the marquee was just perfect.  We are pleased you are happy with how the marquee was left. Will most definitely send you some photos.Thanks again to you and your team.

Wedding – Timsbury Manor – August 2015


 

Thank You for going above and beyond to make our day exactly as we wanted and so much more!  Everyone loved the marquee and how the bunting was set up.  Thank you so much for all your help and recommendations.  Hope to cross paths again in the future!

Wedding – New Forest – August 2015 


 

We found Southern Marquees to be friendly, hard working, assisted with queries outside of their remit! Mandy hung our lanterns for us as we struggled for time! The marquee was clean and looked wonderful once up at Hollybank House. Could not have been happier! Thanks Southern! You really helped make our day and weekend WONDERFUL x

Wedding – Hollybank House – July 2015


It was a fantastic day and the marquee looked beautiful, thanks for everything you did for us to make it go so smoothly. The band were also brilliant so thank you for recommending them to us. We’re off on our honeymoon to Barbados on Thursday so looking forward to that! Thanks to you both again and I’ll be recommending you to everyone.

Wedding – Hollybank House – May 2015



We had a fabulous evening ,the marquee looked beautiful, we danced all night ! The guys did a great job putting it up and dismantling and my lawn was still lovely when it was gone.

Party – Warsash New Years Eve – 2014


 

With the addition of Rosies homegrown flowers, the marquee looked amazing! Thank you Southern Marquees!

Superb service and very pleasant and helpful people to work with. Could not have asked for more when I hired them for my son’s wedding recently. Simply the best!

Wedding – Wickham Vineyard, Hampshire Sept 14


 

Thank you for all your help in the creation of our beautiful day! It was simply perfect!

Wedding – Farleigh Mortimer, Basingstoke, Hampshire – Sept 14


 

Hi Mandy! Proper thank yous to follow but we just thought you may like to see this one photo of our marquee with the flowers in. A HUGE thank you to you and the team for providing us with our dream marquee, it couldn’t have been more perfect and it completely made our reception – we had so many comments on how beautiful it looked! Love Alice and Chris xxx

Wedding – Stansted, Rowlands Castle – Sept 14


 

Many thanks for your excellent service. It made the whole planning of the
party so much easier.
From the beginning to the end I had no worries that everything would be
perfect, or would be put right if not. That is exactly how it was.
Our friends & family thought the marquee was beautiful and just the right
size. I did appreciate your humour & encouragement, & your son Mark & his
team were most efficient & agreeable. I have already recommended your
company to many of my friends for the future.
Many thanks – I am not planning a celebration for the foreseeable future –
but you never know!
Very best wishes

Party – Chidham, West Sussex – Sept 14


 

We just hired a marquee from Southern Marquees and they were just fantastic. From the overall booking process to update emails and the instillation it was just so professional – no hassle, no dramas just perfect! Thank you so much Southern Marquees for making our party such a massive success!
After working in the events arena for over 10 years I could not recommend Southern Marquees highly enough.

Party – Bursledon, Hampshire – July 14


 

Thank you so much for all your help with the wedding planning and for providing us with such a beautiful marquee! It was so kind of you to erect it slightly earlier and to help string up all the bunting – apologies if I was a bit demanding! The end result looked so much better than I’d ever envisaged and the whole day just blew my expectations. It really was the happiest day of our lives and thank you for helping make it possible. Love Fi & Rory

Wedding – West Hill Park School, Titchfield – July 14


 

Once again a huge thank you for your contribution to making Jo & Chris’s wedding so special.
The new marquee looked amazing and the band were very grateful for the gazebo!!
No more weddings! I need another excuse for a party….

Wedding – West Hill Park School, Titchfield – July 14


 

Thank you to everyone at Southern Marquees! Your help and service was amazing! Having the marquee was amazing faultless beautiful and made our day extra special so thank you all so much especially Mandy for all your advice and help to choose the right marquee, even a few last minute changes weren’t a problem thank you !

Wedding – Hollybank House, Emsworth – June 14


 

We’re back from honeymoon now and just wanted to say a huge THANK YOU for everything that you did to help us have the most perfect and amazing wedding. The marquee was just beautiful and you were amazing from start to finish! As soon as we have our pics – I will send you some of the marquee and just how beautiful it really was!

Wedding – Houghton Lodge, Stockbridge, Hampshire -May 2014


 

If you could have been a fly on the wall you would have been grinning ear to ear – everyone was mightily impressed with how nice the marquee was!

Wedding – Southampton – May 2014


 

We approached Southern Marquees firstly for our Golden Wedding celebrations and more recently for a family wedding reception.
From the outset they produced plans and suggestions and then put it all into practice exactly as we wanted. Nothing was too much trouble and continued liaison with the caterers resulted in a smoothly run and faultless occasion.
It was fascinating to see the speed with which the marquees were assembled by a team of young men and when they were later removed and packed away the garden looked quite bereft without them.
I cannot recommend Southern Marquees, with Hugh and Mandy and their team highly enough. Their professionalism, hard work and cheerfulness ensured we were able to relax and enjoy ourselves without a care in the world!

Wedding – Titchfield, Hampshire – May 2104


Wedding Guest Guide

So much has been written for the bride and groom about the do’s and don’ts for their weddings that I feel it is time for some suggestions on how to be a good guest…

Over the last few years there has been a definite decline in the guests approach to being invited to a wedding.  They are expecting and demanding more and I feel this should now be addressed.  The following might sound a bit brutal but believe me, I have had to deal with some extremely stressed brides who have been driven to distraction because of the thoughtlessness of their guests.

First of all, every guest should realise they are lucky to be invited!  The individual cost will work out somewhere in the region of £60.00 per head min.

When receiving the invitation, it is good manners to reply as quickly as possible with a yes please or not able to attend.  Do not leave it until the week prior to the wedding – firstly, it looks as if you were waiting to see if you get a better offer and at its worst, it just shows lack of concern for your friend.  The anxiety of not knowing how many people will be attending is one of the most stressful things our brides are coping with.  Table plans have to be drawn up and done again as people announce they are coming at the last minute or cancelling.  Caterers will want final numbers a minimum of two weeks prior to the date so it is essential everyone has replied in good time.  Don’t assume you will be expected – a written reply, either by email or the old way of a note, is essential. Once you have agreed to attend;

Don’t think you have any right to expect a say in what the menu will be.  No one in this day and age will die of hunger if presented with a plate of food that is not to their liking.  Either make an effort and eat what you can, or if you happen to be one of the minority with a major allergy to a certain type of food – bring your own.  Do not expect the bride to have to cater for your fads, or dietary problems.  It is just bad manners to expect an individual meal to be prepared especially for you.  We had an example of this problem taken to the extreme.  A wedding with 70 guests and 56 of them had notified the bride of allergies!

Children.  It must be awful for small ones to be expected to be on their best behaviour throughout a long day at a wedding.  It might be worth thinking about asking a grandparent or trusted adult to look after the little gems, while you have a day for yourselves.  Not many weddings are geared up for small children but if you do need to bring them along, if they need high chairs or special seats, you should consider taking your own.  Don’t expect high chairs to be supplied! Again, this is just another worry for the bride, which is what we are trying to avoid!

Photographs after the wedding ceremony can take a long time to take so be prepared to hang around and don’t whinge!  You might consider having a more comfortable pair of shoes to wear for this moment.

Follow the simple suggestions above and you will be everyone’s dream guest!  It’s not rocket science but it is surprising how many brides are being sent into a complete spin because their guests are being a nightmare!

Contact us for more information, visit our WEBSITE or give us a call on 01489 575372 – we would love to hear from you!